Attending different colleges creates distance between twins

Kaiya Little, Life and Arts Reporter

Ask Ashley Schluter to admit how much she thinks about her twin sister, and her answer would probably destroy her ego.

Schluter’s sister attends Baylor University, and, with 100 some-odd miles between the two, the biology freshman said she feels the absence of her twin more than anything.

“I keep bringing her up in conversations like she’s dead or something,” Schluter said. “I’m like, ‘Oh, my sister used to do that.’ It’s the weirdest thing.”

For students who have a twin, college is often their first experience being apart from their sibling for a long period of time.

Just like any siblings, Schluter said she and her twin had many quickly forgotten arguments but also spent hours showing each other funny videos and driving to school in their shared car. Schluter never dared to fiddle with the music, knowing how grumpy her sister felt in the mornings. Those mornings remain a favorite memory of hers.

“(I) think about all the things that we used to do,” Schluter said. “Now, I miss doing that with her, because I can’t do that (anymore).”

Inbar Turjeman, an economics and sociology sophomore, has a sister who attends the University of Texas at Dallas. Before college, they frequently shared moments of laughter across the dinner table and spent time together within their circle of friends. Turjeman said living in different cities just feels weird.

“It felt silly, like I wanted to say something (to her) but then she wasn’t there,” Turjeman said. “I had to call her instead of just walking two doors over.”

Turjeman said growing up with a twin led to a lot of tension, but came with the unique feeling of having someone who is similar to her in every way.

“I describe it as having a built-in best friend,” Turjeman said. “It’s like someone you relate to without even trying.”

The additions of school, distance and her sister’s new barista job don’t allow them to talk about their days as often, but they still try to keep in touch.

“I think we grew a little apart during that time. It was difficult, but it wasn’t impossible,” Turjeman said. “I think we needed that to create our own identities and stuff away from each other.”

Undeclared freshman Tate Christian said his relationship with his twin changed a lot since he left for Texas A&M University. The two could usually be found together, whether on the golf course or around school. Now, they mostly communicate over Snapchat.

“We were to the point where I didn’t really go searching for other friends because he was my best friend,” Christian said. “I was content with how our relationship was super close.”

Christian wants to find new ways to get out of his comfort zone and meet new people, even in a new place that he cannot face with his twin. In fact, most of his friends here don’t even know he has one.

“Everyone knows you as a pair, and you come here and everyone knows you as one,” Christian said. “It’s definitely different.”