Introverts of UT, it’s OK to not fit in

Amy DonJuan, Columnist

The weeks surrounding Halloween can be one of the most mentally exhausting times of the year for students. Not only is it midterm season, but for many, it’s also “party season.” Some people enjoy partying as a way to de-stress from academics and have fun, but those who are more introverted can feel the pressure from the social standards and party culture of UT.

Introverts, it’s OK to not fit into the party scene on this campus. 

Yes, it can be hard to say “no” to parties and social events, but if it truly isn’t your thing, you probably won’t have fun anyway. Instead, focus on yourself. As cliche as that sounds, take some time to explore your interests, and eventually, you’ll make friends.

Madeline Hajovsky, an english and linguistics freshman who identifies as an introvert, described how she was able to make friends through student organizations.

“I really love poetry. I’m a singer-songwriter, so I write music. That’s why I’m involved with UTalent (Records),” Hajovsky said.“I have a couple of really good friends (that) group.”

Many introverts worry about making friends when coming to UT. While it may seem like it’s easier to make friends because of the large student population, it can still be hard for introverts. Many people bring friends from high school, and it may be intimidating to jump into preestablished friend groups.

For those who struggle, it’s easy to make acquaintances in class. The hard part is turning acquaintances into close friends. Building friendships with people who will support you through both successes and struggles takes time, so don’t feel like you have to rush. You’ll find these people eventually.

Biology freshman Kylie Frensley, who also identifies as an introvert, outlined her goals for her first semester at UT.

“I’m not really involved in anything, just trying to get through my classes this first semester,” Frensley said. “I’d say class is definitely at the top of my list right now, just through the adjustment period. I’m trying to be better about prioritizing friendships and time for myself.” 

Not everyone has to be involved in organizations and the social scene at UT. It’s OK to dedicate the majority of your time to academics. You’ll find others who share your interests and goals eventually. It just may take longer than you thought. 

Introverted students of UT, please don’t feel like you have to make friends right now. It’s OK to say “no” to the party culture of UT and to not always say “yes” to social events. Remember, your experiences will not be the same as others, and that’s OK.

DonJuan is a Plan II and Economics freshman from Quanah, TX.