Editor’s Note: This story is written from outside experiences and does not include data or represent every situation.
A popular romantic comedy released in 2003, “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days,” depicts Andie Anderson’s life as she attempts to write a story about what makes a guy uninterested. Dating has devolved since the early 2000s. With the addition of social media and the ability to consistently communicate, accessibility has become an increasing turn-off for many seeking romantic partners. Now, those seeking relationships must jump through several hurdles to enter into a committed relationship, such as a “talking stage” or “situationship.”
So, how do students lose a situationship in 10 days? Here are The Daily Texan’s results.
Being clingy
“Alex” stopped talking to a girl because she was too clingy, feeling controlled by the relationship. Alex said while this may not be the case for every man, consistent texting and calling can make someone feel like the other person’s life revolves around that relationship.
“If a girl calls so often or if she’s FaceTimed me, or texts real quick, that basically means you (have) nothing else going on during your day,” Alex said. “That means you invest too much time on something that might or might not happen, so when she’s overly committed, (it’s a turn off).”
Asking questions
One of the worst things people can do in a relationship: asking serious questions. When asked what he wanted, “John” said he wanted a relationship, yet he always managed to change the topic of conversation. Ten days later, the situationship ended.
Lack of effort
When someone doesn’t show enough effort, situationships go from casual to nonexistent. “Penny” texted a guy living in San Antonio, planning to hang out. This was before he decided he wouldn’t come see her because he said entitlement’s a turn off. For Penny, the lack of effort turned her away from him as relationships, or even situationships, should be 50/50 from each side.
“I had asked him when I was gonna see him, and he was like, ‘You should come see me,’” Penny said. “He’s in San Antonio. I don’t have a car. I said, ‘Bold of you to assume that I would come see you,’ teasing (and) cute, whatever. … I don’t have a car, so I actually can’t come see you. You’re in San Antonio, and you have a car.”
What’s next?
While all reasons change for each situation, they apply in many cases. For situationships, they either turn into a relationship or end. People should not look at these reasons as what not to do, but as a sign of when to ditch the situation.
